Wednesday, April 22, 2020

I've Retired. Why am I so busy?

I have retired, why am I so busy?

December of 2019 I retired from my position. No, I left my position. No, I was downsized out of my position as an executive assistant.  Don’t feel sorry for me yet!

As I walked out the door I noticed everyone was smiling at me. How did they know? Was my name on a list telling the world what happened? Oh My Gosh!!!!

As I made my way to Starbucks people I noticed people were still smiling at me. Was my notice placed in the newspaper (sorry, dated myself with that one) was my notice placed on Facebook?

As I passed the mirror I realized why everyone was smiling at me. Because I had the biggest smile on my face and I was smiling at them!!! Go figure.

I say all that to say this, transitions are needed, necessary, and really they are not as unexpected as we want to believe.

From December 2019 until the executive order came down to “shelter in place” I was already sheltering in place.  Zoom meetings with mentees, food deliveries so I did not have to stop studying (yes, I am still in school).  Conference calls with my ministry team and most importantly,
Facebook Messenger for Kids" with my granddaughter.

It was what happened after the “shelter in place” I didn’t expect. Leaders, business owners, entrepreneurs were contacting me:

Are you working as a virtual assistant?”  Me: “Um, no”

Do you know a virtual assistant? Me: “Um, yes”

Can you help me put together a PowerPoint deck? Me: “Um, no, swamped, but I know someone who can

How do I find an assistant?” Me: “Um, let’s talk

And "let’s talk" made me realize it was time to finish my book.  This book has been on my shelf for years! And now I have the time … and now I will make time to finish it.

I will say this on Administrative Professionals Day!

You are the essential workers that will always be needed.  Even in your retirement.  You have been gifted with knowledge and wisdom. Never sell yourself short.

If you are like me, retired yet still smiling even during this time of uncertainty.

Embrace the shift, make a plan, and enjoy the journey!

"The glory of young men is their strength and the beauty of old men is the gray head."
Proverbs 20:29

Wednesday, December 18, 2019

It's In The Valley I Grow

"Where have you been this year? In a Valley."

My year began with the declaration of The Emergence!  It has long been my heart’s desire to provide practical instruction for managing life's difficulties.  I wanted everyone to find their own Courageous Me! My venue was set and the classes began: Breaking Free ~ The Mind!

Little did I know the Emergence was not just an external work for others, but an internal work for me.

Today begins a new era for me as I am no longer on A payroll for the first time in 25 years.  For the past 15 years, I've worked for a great company, Cox Enterprises. Before coming to Cox I worked for Verizon for 20 years. God has been good to me in my career.

But where have I been lately?

In a valley. 

I did not know why I was in this valley.  But I did know it was peaceful here.  I did know I was to be silent in this valley, I did know I was to rest in this valley and I did know God was here.

Standing here now in my valley and I see two mountains, and I reflect.  In this valley, I did lose some things, some ideologies, and some relationships.  Not because they were bad, but because they do not belong on this new mountain.

God will not always take away things from you, but He will allow you the time and space to lay them down.

The mountain of Media which I have been on for 35 years stands on one side, and the other mountain, I see it…  This one will be a climb, but the valley has prepared me, isn't that what a valley is for?

Remember, when you find yourself in a valley
~ be silent
~ rest
~ know God is there.

It is time for me to start the climb and continue…

The Journey to Me!

Sometimes life seems hard to bear,
Full of sorrow, trouble, and woe.
It’s then I have to remember,
That it’s in the valleys I grow.
By Janet Eggleston

Sunday, May 12, 2019

Happy Mother's Day!

Happy Mother's Day to all the Moms, Mommies, Mother, Grandma, Grandmommies, G's, GG's, Nana's, Nannies ... and all the rest!  

Whatever name we embrace there is one thing that remains there same.  We would not be here without Mothers!

There are certain years when celebrating Mother's Day is easier than others, knowing you are no longer here in body, but this is not one of one is not. 

As I touch the right side of my head, right above the ear, I remember the barette that was placed there by your hand.  The fresh smell of the hot comb on a Sunday Morning...

So, I will just say again, Happy Mother's Day to all the Mothers, and I shall spend this day in reflections.  

Be Blessed.


For more from CourageousMi, please visitA Open Letter to My Mother

Thursday, May 2, 2019

DYI - Fix That!

You are the most important DIY project you have! 

Never stop!  Never ever stop working on you.

You may have EMERGED!.  You may be bossing, owning it and walking out your purpose ... but are you still struggling with that?

What is your that?  

*  a temper, causing you to snap at your teammates, loved ones or employees; 
*  physical abuse which makes a simple hug impossible; 
*  betrayal, which keeps you from believing the truth when spoken; 
*  rejection, which hinders the possibility of authentic relationships;
*  "their' adultery" causing you to close your heart from loving anyone
*  "your'  adultery", causing you to fight shame through over/under compensating;

And now, you find the emotions which are connected to your "thats" are starting to spill out at the most inopportune time. 

Again, I say, don't you dare quit!   "What do I do?"  First, pray! Learn to clearly identify your thats.  Then, you must be willing to do the work required to maintain your freedom!

It is time to Break Free in your Mind, Break Free in your Soul and Break Free in your Body.  

It is time to be whole! 


Thursday, April 4, 2019

Do you know your WHY?

This is not just a catchphrase for the next, “Tens Steps to a Better You!” conference! 

Knowing your "Why" is Critical!  

Why are you doing what you do? 

Why are you working at “that job”? And please don’t say for money!

Why are you an entrepreneur? 

Why do you spend so much time at the gym? 

Why did you choose to serve in ministry?

What is your Why? 

Is your Why or your actions stuck behind the dreadful: “I should”, "they are expecting me to”, “If I don’t do it then who will?”  

How about this one, “It brings me satisfaction”!  Well, that sounds like a good reason, doesn’t it? 

No, it is not!  

Because when the satisfaction runs out; when it becomes too much trouble to maintain or you realize it was a temporary placebo... you will give it up! 

Now you have lost the one thing in life you will NEVER get back. TIME!

Time is the most precious commodity you have. Don’t waste it. 

Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom” Psalms 90:12

Wednesday, March 27, 2019

Are You Dumpster Diving?

Can you relate to this scenario?  

We come to church on Sunday. We hear a convicting word. “Yes, Lord! That is where I am!” 

We come to the altar for prayer. 

 “YES Lord, I will lay “that” down, discard it, remove it from my life.  It is 
done, over, finished!"

But two hours, three days or one week later you are reasoning within yourself:  

“Maybe there was some more value to it”  

“I’ve been this way all my life, it was just part of who I am”

“All of him, her or it wasn’t that bad”

That my friend is “dumpster diving

When God says, “Throw it away, (whatever your “it” is) You don’t need it anymore, He means it!

Yet we find ourselves diving back into the dumpster to pull it out of the place it was discarded. 

We knock off some of the dirt it collected, we cut off the mold that had started growing on it, I mean,  “All of that banana isn’t bad, it is still fruit!  I will just cut off the bad part”.

Please know, even though you cut the mold off, there is still dis-ease in it.  Now after returning to it, you find yourself sick all over again, and you need prayer/deliverance all over again.

“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results”

It’s time to Break Free!

The first step in breaking free is acknowledging, "yep those feet are mine"

Tuesday, March 26, 2019

Know Your Real Enemy

Y'all. Satan is no dummy.  

Deception is his biggest weapon and he is quite brilliant at using it.  

He cannot read your mind, He is not omnipresent, omniscient or omnipotent.  Those attributes belong to God and God alone!

BUT he has kept exquisite records of your life.  Yes, little ole you!  Satan and his pals know exactly how to use their storehouse of information to bring about predictable responses in you. 

He will turn his vast knowledge (accumulated over your whole lifetime) of your unmet needs, unresolved issues, unhealed hurts, bad memories, pain, anger, bitterness, unforgiveness and, hidden sin into arsenals to use against you.

YET, one of the most disturbing forms of deception is self-deception!  Self-deception is a form of corrupted consciousness or willed ignorance. 

Wow, I know that is heavy, but as my grandmother often said we must “call a spade a spade”.

The first step to overcoming any life-debilitating act is to identify it.

Are you aware of those areas that need to change, or have you fallen prey to the familiar declaration, “that is just how I am!?

That may be how you are, but that does not mean you need to stay that way.

There is too much life to be lived, victories to be won and love to be shared.